The value of healing wounds of lack
Early days in my own recovery process, I really had trouble seeing how much I had in my own life. I was truly blind to the abundance in my own life. I just couldn't see everything that I had been given. I would often get into comparison because I didn't seem to value what I already had. It was as if the grass was always greener in someone else's backyard.
How did I shift that perspective?
MADE A LIST OF THINGS THAT I HAD
Okay so here is the deal. It’s more of an inventory. What are some things you can say thank goodness I have this. It could be small. It could be food in my fridge. But, I did so from the perspective of just today.
MAKE A LIST OF THINGS YOU HAVE RECEIVED YOU ALWAYS WANTED
Okay so now go back through your life. What are three things you got that you always wanted. Here is my list:
Good Credit: Early in my recovery, my credit was terrible. I had opened a business and I had overspent. My credit cards were totally maxed out and I had no game plan for how to pay it down. I remember it was something in the 6 digits. As I looked at my life in 2015, I realized that debt that had made me sweat at night. Today it is a distant memory. It is almost entirely paid off except for about $900. My credit has been restored!
New Car: So as you might have imagined, I couldn't really get a great car. Well, I could but I needed help. I am sad to admit this but 9 years ago, I had to have my parents help me buy a car. Mortifying! My goal was to be able to buy a new car entirely in my own name on my own credit. Well 2017, it happened.
Loving Family: You know I always dreamt of having my own family. But, for whatever reason, I have had a series of bad relationships or relationships that just ended badly. I always imagined that I would happy when I had a loving family. In other words, I could only be happy when I had a husband and kids. But, I re-framed my thinking. I realized I already had so so much. I have a huge and very loving extended family. I'm happy to spend time with them.
